On this day 18 years ago, my wife and I got married! Happy Anniversary honey! We have been through it all together! It is so awesome to be raising our kids together and I am so thankful for all that God has done! I love you with all my heart!
We got married June 23, 2001 down in Denver at the historic Whatley Chapel on a beautiful Saturday morning in front of our friends and family. Our friend, who is now a Pastor here in Colorado, performed the service for us. Watching my wife walk down the aisle was a beautiful moment in time that I will never forget!
After 18 years of marriage, we have had our share of challenging days. Marriage is not easy. It is a lifetime commitment to love each other under God’s holy covenant between a man and a woman! It takes all of your heart and your very being to love someone. Believe me, you will need God’s help! Through all the trying times, we must forgive and keep loving each other! One thing I have learned that is so very true is that you will grow closer to each other when you both grow closer to God. Jesus is the reason my wife and I have a thriving marriage full of love! Jesus is the reason we became one and Jesus is the reason we will stay one forever!
Through our marriage, the Lord has never let me lose sight of one particular verse. It is a verse that all husbands should remember. I have not been perfect in loving my wife this way, but this verse burns brightly in my heart and I pray and seek to love my wife this way for the rest of our days.
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her…”
Wow! That is incredible! Paul exhorts us to love our wives just as Christ loves His church! When we got married, my wife was 20 and I was 22. That was a huge responsibility to me and I took it very seriously, and I still do! In order for me to love my wife as Jesus loves the church, I need to love and follow Jesus with all of my heart! It is only through Jesus that I can love my wife the way God wants me to love her. It is by the power of His Holy Spirit that I can give myself up for her and love her like He does!
Just before verse 25, Paul also exhorts women to recognize the God ordained leadership responsibility of their husbands. Keep in mind when reading these verses, that a woman will naturally want to submit to her husband’s leadership if he is loving her as Christ loved the church. The Word does not say a man has the right to be abusive in his leadership. Just remember that.
“Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.”
This is a huge responsibility for the husband! It is not a position of power and authority to be lorded over the wife. It is a position of humility and love to serve our wives, protect them, and lead them as Jesus does! Here is that Scripture again with the verses that come after it.
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church–for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery–but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”
Men, when you love your wife like Jesus does, the respect will follow! That responsibility is yours, not hers. Salvation is a free gift of God through faith in Jesus. Respect has to be earned! Love your wife by washing her with the Word of God. Love your wife by encouraging her relationship with Jesus and leading her to Him in everything you do! Love your wife by laying down your life for her and serving her in love!
Jesus set a powerful example for us of how we should love our wives. May we never forget that! If you want a successful marriage folks, love each other like the Bible says to love each other! That is how my wife and I have made it 18 years and we are still looking forward to many more as we spend our lives together in the Lord!
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails…”
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
“And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”
1 Corinthians 13:13
It’s all about Jesus and loving like He loves us!
Grace and peace to you all!