I hope everyone is having a blessed day celebrating love! Yesterday I wrote about what love truly is. God is love, so celebrate Him and His love today! We would not have love without God and the very existence of love proves the existence of God! Our family will be celebrating God’s love today. My wife and I have been married for 17 years and we are so thankful for our two awesome kids! I want you to know though, it has not been easy! I know many of you have been married much longer than we have and many of you are newly married or single. I have gained much wisdom learning from all of you and I would like to share some real talk about what my wife and I have learned in our time together.
Before I get started, I need to share some verses with you that have been instrumental in my wife and I loving each other. These verses have been the very heart of why our marriage has survived through all the challenges and mistakes.
“Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.”
1 Peter 4:8
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails…”
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
We even have a little framed piece of art of 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 hanging on the wall in the kitchen. It’s good to adorn your home with God’s Word!
Have I always loved my wife that way? No. I have made many mistakes and said many sinful things that I am ashamed of, but we move forward in forgiveness. My wife and I have had our bad arguments, but the center of our relationship is not each other. It is Jesus! No matter what we go through, we always strive to love each other the way God’s Word says to. No matter how bad the argument or how hurt or irritated we are, we always remember to bear with each other, forgive each other as Jesus forgave us, and to love each other deeply the 1 Corinthians 13 way because that always covers over a multitude of sins.
We have had times where we were both hurt so bad that I didn’t know if we would make it, but we just kept giving it to Jesus. When God brings two people together, you better believe the evil one wants to rip them apart and believe me, he will try. We made it through those times victoriously because we gave the battle to God and fought back through prayer, God’s Word, and worship!
No marriage is perfect. We are not perfect. But we have a perfect God who is perfect in His love and He gives us the power to love like Him! I can tell you right now, my wife and I would not have made it without Jesus. If we didn’t have the Holy Spirit inside of us guiding, convicting, and teaching us, then our marriage would have ended years ago. We can’t love like God without His Holy Spirit.
My parents just celebrated 44 years of marriage in January! Truly amazing! That is an awesome example of loving faithfulness! I love you guys! Here is what my Mom said about it:
“Forty four!! It just doesn’t seem possible. We were married Jan 11, 1975. We were both 21 (of course I turned 22 later that month). It was freezing cold, windy, and had an ice storm that morning. Your Dad was student teaching, so still in college. I was working full-time at Brown Specialty and had my own apartment for 2 years, so your Dad just moved in with clothes, etc. Ha. I had my Nova. Our rent was $95 with utilities!! I brought home $95 a week.”
Then I was born just a few years later in ’78! My Mom and Dad showed my younger sister and I how to keep on loving each other through any pain, trouble, or disagreement. 44 years is a long time folks! Congratulations Mom and Dad! Thank you for setting such a strong example of faithful love even through the hard times! Praise the Lord!
My wife and I have another 27 years before we reach 44 years of marriage. I wonder what we will learn from now until then. I know…a lot!!! We have learned so much about each other, ourselves, and the Lord over the last 17 years it is mind boggling! We didn’t get to where we are without going through many trials and tribulations, and it is only Jesus that got us through victoriously.
Here is a photo on the side of our fridge from the day we were married on June 23, 2001. This is from our wedding reception. We had no idea of all the trials we were going to live through, but we promised to be with each other forever under God’s covenant of marriage.
We have to fight for our families! We have to fight back by praying for each other. Pray over your spouse. Pray over your kids. Read God’s Word every day because we don’t live on bread alone. Our soul needs food and our families are healthy when we feed on God’s Word. Serve each other in love and care for each other. Praise and worship the Lord together. We love putting on some TobyMac and dancing and praising with the kids. That’s some good Holy Spirit fun right there!
I am not a perfect husband or a perfect father, but I give my heart to God and ask Him to help me love my family like He loves them and He does. I am looking forward to many more years with my wife. Through all the ups and downs and challenges we have faced, the Lord has always kept us together in His love! To my wife and kids: I love you with all my heart!
We all need God’s love wherever we are in this world. That deep love that bears all things and never fails! You will have that real love in your marriage when you both make Jesus your first love and keep it that way for all the years of your lives! Marriage is not easy and it will not be without trouble, but you can overcome anything together through Christ!
Grace and peace to you all!