Today is June 23, 2020. Nineteen years ago today, on June 23, 2001, my wife and I were married at a beautiful chapel in downtown Denver. We met and fell in love in college and we’ve been together ever since. Happy Anniversary honey, I love you!
My wife and I have been through a lot of suffering and trials together. From the very beginning, our marriage seemed destined to face trials and tribulations when our country was attacked just 3 months later on September 11th. Quite a start into the economy for a newly wed couple trying to make it. I was selling cars back then. Thank God that 0% financing came out after that, or we probably wouldn’t have sold any cars. My wife was still in college at the time and we lived in a small apartment outside of our University’s campus. Neither of us had celebrated our birthdays yet that year, so I was 22 and my wife was 20 the day we got married. We were young and deeply in love and we still are. Well, in love anyway. Not so young anymore.
We committed our lives, marriage, hopes, and dreams to Jesus and He is the reason we are still together today. The Lord has given us two beautiful children and we are blessed to watch them grow and live peaceful healthy lives. Even through all the pain and suffering of Celiac Disease, the Lord has held us together strong and He has never given up on us. He is a mighty God that deserves all our praise!
We have weathered every storm together and come out strong and resilient in Christ! My wife wrote a beautiful note in the card she gave me this morning. I would like to share part of what she said.
“When a tree is tested by the wind, its roots make the tree stronger so it can withstand storms. That’s our love and life together. We have been tested and tried, but have come out stronger.”
-My wife
It’s so true! When I was diagnosed with Celiac Disease on 1-6-2012, it flipped our lives upside down. Our daughter was 4 and our son was not even 2 yet. I was 33. We had two small kids to raise and bills to pay, and I had just been taken out by a horrible auto-immune disorder. I couldn’t work, in fact, I could barely eat or walk. It radically changed our lives and put immense pressure on our marriage.
Jesus carried us through that fire and He strengthened and refined us like silver. He held us through all the arguments and disappointments. All the job loss and debt. All the stress and attempts by the enemy to tear us apart. Jesus held us through it all!
You don’t get to 19 years of marriage without trouble. Love takes your whole heart and marriage will prove that to you. Marriage takes sacrifice, hard work, and lots and lots of forgiveness. Believe me, you will not go far without forgiveness. Whatever trials you are going through today, let those hardships bring you together, not tear you apart. Love and forgive as Jesus loves and forgives you, and let it go. Don’t keep a record of wrongs. Move forward in love and stay strong together as one! That is what 19 years being married to the same woman I fell in love with in my youth has taught me. Hold on to Jesus together and never let go!
“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.”
1 Corinthians 13:4-8
Those verses in 1 Corinthians spell out exactly how we are to love each other. That is how God loves us. We are not perfect in loving each other this way, but our marriage has survived a culture that hates the holy union between a man and a woman because our marriage has been rooted in God’s love from the beginning. You will both make mistakes in your marriage and we all need grace and forgiveness. For the newly weds out there, please don’t expect it to be perfect and be sure to give each other room to grow and do so in love.
“Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
Ephesians 4:32
Tend the garden of your marriage well and fight for each other. Don’t let weeds sprout up and choke out your joy and love. Take care of those weeds right when they pop up and dig them out from the root! Stand firm together in Christ and don’t let the evil one ever get a foot hold! You truly do become one in the Spirit and you must fight back together by the power of the Holy Spirit. The evil one will try to separate you and pit you against each other. Fight for each other in Christ! Fight back through prayer, God’s Word, and putting forgiveness into action! Fight back through love!
Marriage is not easy, but I would do it all over again with the same beautiful woman I am with today and will be with for the rest of my life! She is the mother of our children, my best friend, and the woman I love, and I am forever blessed to have found her! Thank you Jesus for all you have done for us!
Grace and peace to you all!
Happy 19th Anniversary! That is awesome!
Sounds like you and your wife have really been through it all.
That is so true what your wife wrote.
It’s great to hear that y’all are so close together. It’s hard to find a couple like that anymore these days.
I hope y’all have a very special day.
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Thank you Lydia! We appreciate your kind words! God bless!
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It’s wonderful that you two have been through so much and have stuck by each other no matter what. Wishing you both a very happy anniversary! Here’s to many more blessed years to come!
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Thanks Michelle, amen! God bless!
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Lovely poem Ryan’s wife! God bless you always and Happy Anniversary!!🥂🌻
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Thanks Vivian! God bless!
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Happy Anniversary and thank you for sharing those amazing wedding pictures!
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Thanks! It was a beautiful sunny day just like today.😊 We had a lot of fun. Blessings!
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Happy wedding anniversary! Through the trials you have gotten stronger together with Jesus at your core! May you have many more years together! Congratulations and abundant blessings!
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Thank you, amen! Blessings!
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You are welcome!
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Happy 19th anniversary! That is quite a long time. Forever to go! Blessings to you and your wife💕💕💕
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Thank you! Blessings!
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Happy Anniversary
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Thanks sir! God bless!
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Happy anniversary!
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Thank you! God bless!
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Isn’t love grand?!…especially when your love for one another deepens each year and how you so cherish each other, your Godly marriage, your life together, how you cherish your beautiful children, and how you both praise God’s blessings! “Happy 19th Anniversary to you both!” It was such a beautiful wedding ceremony, blessed by God’s love for you both. Love you two, Mom
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Thanks Mom! Love you!
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Happy Anniversary and Love in Christ and Blessings to the family.
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Thank you Bonnie!🙏 Blessings!
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Kiss the Kids for me.
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Happy anniversary! Very well said , all of it true. May the Lord bless you and keep you!
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Thank you! God bless!
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Happy Anniversary
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Thank you! Blessings!
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Wishing both of you a very blessed anniversay and many more happy years together.
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Thank you Wendi! God bless!
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Happy anniversary!!!
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Thanks Lisa! Blessings!
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God will continue to bless your marriage. Best wishes on your anniversary.
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Thank you! God bless!
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Happy anniversary!!! 💕
This is beautiful Ryan. And you are still a young man. 😉
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Thanks sister! Still feel young too, thanks.😊 Blessings!
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What a beautiful and inspiring post, Ryan! I am very happy for you and your wife, and pray that the Lord continues to fill you both with his grace and joy. May your marriage and love inspire many others around you.
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Thank you Milly! Blessings!
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Absolutely beautiful!
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Thank you! God bless!
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“When a tree is tested by the wind, its roots make the tree stronger so it can withstand storms. That’s our love and life together. We have been tested and tried, but have come out stronger.”’ True words of wisdom. Happy 19th to you both! ♥
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Amen! Thank you, Jacquie, God bless!
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Happy Anniversary!!!!!
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Thank you! Blessings!
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Your marriage will serve as a good example for the young generation to follow. Happy wedding anniversary. Congrats.
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Thank you, Chris! Blessings!
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Many happy returns! Make that many joyful returns!
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Thank you, sir! God bless!
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Congrats. Great to hear about your anniversary
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Thank you! Blessings!
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Congratulations to you and your wife, Ryan. Did you make your decision on moving to Florida?
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Thanks sir! No decision yet. We are doing a lot of praying about it. Looks like we might be moving, but not sure when. God bless!
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Congratulations! thank you for your wise words about marriage!
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Thank you! So thankful for the wisdom He gives us, glory to God! Blessings!
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Happy anniversary!!!!!!!!!!! Nice wedding pics. And some very wise words. Wishing you and your wife many happy years to come!
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Thanks brother! Blessings!
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🙂
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Here’s to 19 more, Ryan, and 19 more, and 19 more…
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Amen! Thanks Mitch, God bless!
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A belated congratulations!
Hope you guys have many more years together!
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Thanks sister! God bless!
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And I’ve nominated you for the food award:
https://rachealnovel.wordpress.com/2020/06/26/the-food-award-2/
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Cool, thanks!
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Beautiful testimony of marriage!! I love what your wife said in the note…
Congrats to 19 years!!!
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Thanks Alicia! Blessings!
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Congratulations to you both. I agree with you that marriage takes LOTS of forgiveness! may God continue to bless and keep your union in Jesus name. thank you so much for sharing
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Thanks Sheila! God bless!
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Happy Anniversary!
God bless you!
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Thank you, brother! God bless!
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Happy 19th Anniversary 😊
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Thank you! God bless!
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I nominated you for Awesome blogger award. Hope you accept my nomination.
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Thank you! 🙏 Blessings!
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